A woman I know--and by woman I know, I mean complete stranger I met on the bus--is having an attack of the Thirties.
People talk about men's midlife crises, but over the years, I've noticed a lot of women hit thirty and suddenly feel the irresistible urge to make massive changes in their lives--often to the distress of her partner who had no idea anything was wrong.
Whatever or however her life is going, she suddenly realizes that This Is Not What I Want. It doesn't mean things are bad. It doesn't mean there is something wrong with her partner. What she has may even be everything she thought she wanted, maybe even everything she DID want once upon a time.
But something has changed in her.
Often the result of this is she finds herself blowing up her life. She snaps at her partner. She quits her job. She considers dropping out of school just three credits short of graduation. She finds herself wildly attracted to someone to someone for no clear reason.
If you're a woman and finding this happen to you--don't worry, it's normal. It's also normal to feel guilty about it or wonder what's wrong with you that what you want is so different from what you have. I don't have answers for you, and I can't tell you what to do. I CAN tell you that in my experience with other women who have gone through this, clarity comes with time. Most women who go through this have told me afterward that as hard as it was at the time, they came through it stronger.
If you're a guy whose partner is suddenly going through this--whatever she does, it isn't your fault and it is likely you can't fix it. I can't make any promises as to how things work out. A lot of times the woman ends up leaving, but I've also seen enough stay that there's no way to say for sure what will happen. Whatever happens, most of the times this is about her, so whatever happens, try not to take it personally.
-May All Beings Be Sexy