I’ve never been married, but I am getting to the age where I am starting to see some of my friends’ marriages end.
I always thought of divorce as a bad break-up. It’s worse than that. Hearing the stories about the legal, financial and emotional fall-out makes me cringe. And it’s time and energy-consuming too, way worse than here’s your CD back. I’m amazed at the strength people have to come through something like that.
What surprises me about the break-up of a friends’ marriage is that it hits ME hard, especially when it is couples I‘ve known for years. Some of them I never knew BEFORE they were a couple.
I tend to idealize those couples. I think of them as the ones that Made It. They’re an example of what is possible for the rest of us.
But in the end, they are as human as the rest of us. Some marriages last; some don’t. It’s not necessarily anyone’s fault. It’s just how it goes.
A relationship can end at any time, even after years together, decades even.
To me, that‘s a reminder to appreciate every moment I have with each partner. Some relationships last only weeks (or hours), some weeks, some years, and some a lifetime. Sometimes you will have an idea how long a relationship will last. But you can never know for sure.
I can never know how long a relationship will last. But I can do my best to make whatever moments we have together worthwhile.
-May All Beings Be Sexy
In other news, the group I mentioned wanting to put together in a previous journal entry is coming together. Look for an announcement tomorrow.
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