The reason I ask is because for me, it took me a while. I would refuse most human contact. I was uncomfortable with it and the only reason I started hugging was because my sister-in-law wouldn’t take no for an answer.
If you are such a person, it’s okay. All of us have different comfort levels.
That said, I’ve learned touching and being touched is one of life’s pleasures.
If you’re ready to start exploring it, try the Practices below. You can do whichever ones you are comfortable with in whatever order you like. Take as much or as little time as you need. I’d encourage you err on the side of slowness. It's hard to feel comfortable if you're rushing yourself.
PRACTICE:
1 - Over the next few days, consider your attitude towards touching and being touched. Are there certain people you enjoy touching or being touched by? Are there people you don’t want to touch or be touched by no matter what? What is the difference?
2 - Pay attention to sensations when you handle things. What does your fork feel like when you eat dinner? How do different door handles feel? Pay attention to everything you touch over the course of a day. Experiment with the way you touch or hold things. What do you notice?
3 - Touch yourself. Anywhere you like. However you like. Experiment with different amounts of pressure or types of touch. What do you feel?
4 - Get permission to practice on a partner. Touch them in different ways and see what happens. Ask them to touch you. What do you notice?
5 - Are there ways you can incorporate more physical contact into your daily life?
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Hm. Hm! You would think being "in a relationship" would be kind of like carte blanche for touch but... It's probably good to bring awareness to it. I'm not shy about cuddling my pets, so why with the boyfriend?
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