Sunday, May 20, 2012

Diary of a Gateway Boyfriend: The Haiku Alphabet Project (E)

E
Effortless Effort
A relationship takes work
You're trying too hard

-May All Beings Be Sexy

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Friday, May 18, 2012

Still Here, Still Listening

This is just a reminder that I am always here.

I realize that it's easy to look at this blog and its intermittent publishing and think that I'm not interested.

That's not the way it works. I write when I write. I write when I have something to say.

But I'm always willing to read.

Sometimes this blog is silent. Sometimes there will be posts that may or may not have anything to do with what you're looking for.

But that doesn't mean I'm not listening.

If you're having trouble in your romantic life, feel free to drop me a line. If things are going well, I'm happy to hear about that too. If you want my advice, I'm happy to give it to you (although it may not always come immediately--as I said, I write when I have something to say).

But I'm also willing to just quietly read. After all, sometimes we don't need advice. Sometimes just telling someone else what's going on helps.

I just wanted you to know that if you feel you need to reach out, I'm here.

-May All Beings Be Sexy

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Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Diary of a Gateway Boyfriend: The Haiku Alphabet Project (D)

D
The Date Tuesday sucked
I can do better than that
Why hasn’t he called?

-May All Beings Be Sexy
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Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Diary of a Gateway Boyfriend: The Haiku Alphabet Project (C)


C
Just don't be Creepy
Is that so much to ask? Shit
Was all that out loud?

-May All Beings Be Sexy
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Friday, May 11, 2012

Diary of a Gateway Boyfriend: The Haiku Alphabet Project (B)


B
It was mutual
We learned lots from each other
Someday we'll be friends

-May All Beings Be Sexy
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Thursday, May 10, 2012

Diary of a Gateway Boyfriend: The Haiku Alphabet Project (A)

Inspired by this cool blog, which made a post for every letter of the alphabet, and by a book on Japanese aesthetics (yes, I read stuff other than dating books), I've decided to write a series of alphabetical dating haikus.

I like the idea of trying to say a lot in a few words.

Let's see how it goes:
A
All men are Assholes
She told me over coffee
That was our first date

-May All Beings Be Sexy
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Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Why Chromosome

One of the least comfortable and most awkward conversations in dating is when you turn someone down for a first or second date and they want to know why.

If the person is asking genuinely, I don't have a problem with it, but often it isn't so much a genuine request as a guilt trip or the beginning of an argument. And when you don't really know the person it's hard to tell whether or not they're being genuine

My advice is don't ask why unless you want to know. And if they tell you, don't argue with them, whether you agree with them or not, believe them or not, or feel it's fair or not

The only reason a person needs to not go out with someone is to not want to go out with them.

That equally applies to when you are turning someone down. You have no obligation to provide a reason or even have a reason besides "I don't want to go out with you." Anybody who forces the issue, tries to make you feel guilty, or wants to argue you out of your decision is being a jerk.

A female friend of mine recently got the why experience and for fun we brainstormed a bunch of answers from the cliche to the ridiculous.

None of your goddamned business.

It's not you it's me.

I'm focused on my career right now.

I don't feel a connection

My husband and I have decided we're going to try and work things out.

My STIs are acting up.

I forgot I'm a lesbian

The problem is, I'm TOO attracted to you.

My identity was recently stolen by my evil clone and I just got it back. I'm sorry but I have no idea who you are.

This whole time you've been part of a research experiment measuring studliness. You scored in the 98th percentile but it would be unethical of me to date a subject.


Got any of your own? The comments section is always open.

-May All Beings Be Sexy
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Tuesday, May 1, 2012

*Tumbleweeds*

Not a lot of posts lately.

 I imagine you’ve noticed that.

That’s okay. There are other blogs out there, regularly providing new content for readers to consume and argue with other readers about in the comments section.

The Gateway Boyfriend isn’t that kind of blog. If it is, I’ve done my job wrong.

This blog is meant to help you in your day to day life, not provide a distraction from it.

More content will come when it comes.

In the meantime, I encourage you to check out an older post or two. See if you can find something new in one of them, something you’re ready to bring into your relationship life.

 Once you’ve done that, stop reading. Don’t go to the next post.

Instead, turn your monitor off, go out, and see if what you’ve read works for you.

Let me know how it goes. Whether I’m posting new content or not, I’m on your side cheering for you.

-May All Beings Be Sexy

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